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Q I AM 15 and I’m gay. Recently, I met this guy from Essex.

We mainly spoke online and through My Space and stuff. After a while, I told him I liked him and he said he liked me too, which made me over the moon.

A few days later, I asked him out. Basically, I fell head over heels in love with him.

But the problem is, I get bullied in school for being gay and I know I was stupid to admit it.

I have no-one to turn to because my parents don’t know I’m gay and neither do my teachers.

I hate to admit to my friends that bullying and coming out bothers me.

So I then got really insecure about myself, which led to me impulsively asking my boyfriend to marry me.

He said he thought it was too soon and after that we broke up and I was left heart broken. I loved him and I still do. I always will. And on top of that, the bullying isn’t getting any better.

I feel like I’ve lost everything and I have nowhere to turn. Is there any advice you can give me?

Don’t tell I am not gay. I know this one hundred percent. You’ll also say I’m too young to know the meaning of love but I do. He was the love of my life, even though I never met him in person.

A I WOULDN’T dream of telling you you’re not gay. Nor would I belittle the very genuine love you feel for your internet friend.

But the problem is that no matter how strong those feelings were and are, you didn’t really know him.

It’s got nothing to do with your sexuality.

I’d say exactly the same if you were straight and he was a girl – and if you were 25 or 55.

You can’t properly judge someone without meeting them face-to-face.

That is what he recognised and why he got spooked when you asked him to marry you.

You weren’t just too young to make such a commitment, it was far too soon.

You know that yourself. You will love again.

Right now, it’s the bullying you have to get help with.

And that means telling your teachers what’s going on.

I know you feel you made a mistake coming out to friends but it would be an even bigger one not to let the school know what’s happening to you.

They are responsible for your safety but they can’t help if you don’t tell.

Meanwhile, log on to www.lgbtyouth.org.uk for more support and advice.

Source: dailyrecord.co.uk 

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